Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Why home educate

قوله تعالى : ( يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلائِكَةٌ غِلاظٌ شِدَادٌ لا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ ) التحريم/6 .

“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded”
[al-Tahreem 66:6]

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال : جاء رجل إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال : يا رسول الله من أحق الناس بحسن صحابتي ؟ قال : أمك ، قال ثم من ؟ قال : أمك ، قال : ثم من ؟ قال : أمك ، قال : ثم من ؟ قال : ثم أبوك " . رواه البخاري ( 5626 ) ومسلم ( 2548 ) .

Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “A man came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ The man asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, 'then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Then your father.’”

عن عبد الله بن عمر يقول : سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول : " كلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته الإمام راع ومسؤول عن رعيته والرجل راع في أهله وهو مسؤول عن رعيته والمرأة راعية في بيت زوجها ومسؤولة عن رعيتها والخادم راع في مال سيده ومسؤول عن رعيته قال وحسبت أن قد قال والرجل راع في مال أبيه ومسؤول عن رعيته وكلكم راع ومسؤول عن رعيته". رواه البخاري ( 853 ) ومسلم ( 1829 ) .

It was reported that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar said: “I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: ‘Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The imaam is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house and is responsible for her flock. A servant is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for his flock.’ I think that he said, ‘A man is the shepherd of his father’s wealth and is responsible for his flock. Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 853; Muslim, 1829)

يقول الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم : " الرجل على دين خليله فلينظر أحدكم من يخالل " . رواه الترمذي ( 2387 ) وأبو داود ( 4833 ) .

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A man will follow the way of his close friend, so let each of you look to who his close friends are.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2387; Abu Dawood, 4833. This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-Tirmidhi and as saheeh by al-Nawawi, as stated in Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi, 7/42).

قد اشتد حرص السلف على مباشرة مهمة تربية أولادهم ، كما ذكر أن الخليفة العباسي المنصور بعث إلى مَنْ في السجن من بني أمية يقول لهم : ما أشد ما مر بكم في هذا السجن ؟ قالوا: ما فقدنا من تربية أولادنا .

The salaf (early generations of Islam) were very keen to be directly involved in raising and disciplining their children. It is narrated that the ‘Abbaasi caliph al-Mansoor sent word to those of Banu Umayyah who were in prison to ask them: What is the hardest thing for you in this prison? They said: What we have missed out on of raising our children.

فالمسئولية مشتركة في التعليم والتوجيه ، كلٌّ حسب طاقته وقدرته ، ولا يكلف الله نفساً إلا وسعها ، ولا يجوز للأب أن يلقي عبء دراسة الولد على أمه ويقف موقف المتفرج ، ويغفل هو عنه أو يتغافل ، كما لا يجوز للأم أن تفعل الشيء نفسه ، فهي مسئولية مشتركة في العناية والتربية والتعليم ، فإذا كان الأب من العاملين الكادِّين والأم متفرغة فيكون حملها أثقل ، والعكس بالعكس ، وينبغي التشاور والتفاهم حتى تؤدَّى الرسالة على أكمل وجه.

This responsibility should be shared with regard to teaching and guiding, each according to his abilities, and Allaah does not burden any soul beyond its scope. It is not permissible for the father to throw the burden of teaching the child on the mother’s shoulders and then become a mere spectator or become heedless about his child’s upbringing nor is it permissible for the mother to do the same thing. It is a shared responsibility to discipline and teach the child. If the father is working hard and the mother has no other job, then her share of the burden will be heavier, and vice versa. They should consult one another and discuss matters so that the mission will be fulfilled in the best possible way. (IslamQA)

وقال صلى الله عليه وسلم : "إن الله سائل كل راع عما استرعاه ، أحفظ ذلك أم ضيع ؟ حتى يسأل الرجل عن أهل بيته " رواه ابن حبان ، وصححه الألباني في غاية المرام برقم 271
وقال: " كفى بالمرء إثما أن يضيع من يقوت ". رواه أحمد وأبو داود من حديث عبد الله ابن عمرو ، وحسنه الألباني في صحيح الجامع برقم 827
وقال: " ما من عبد يسترعيه الله رعية فلم يحطها بنصحه إلا لم يجد رائحة الجنة" رواه البخاري 6731
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said of his household: “Allaah will ask every shepherd about that which was entrusted to his care, whether he took care of it or neglected it, and He will even ask a man about his family.” Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Ghaayat al-Maraam, no. 271
And he said: “It is sufficient sin for a man to neglect those who are under his care.” Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawood from the hadeeth of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 827.
And he said: “There is no man whom Allaah causes to be appointed to a position of responsibility and he does not discharge his duties sincerely, but he will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6731.

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4 comments:

Us.. said...

Salam sister,

I did read your comment in Ummrashid blog about reading. Just to share my experience. My first son is quiet struggle with his reading. just recently around 9 to 10, he start to read fluently. Honestly I leave everything to school although I did worried sometimes because his sister which is younger than him can read fluently.

He don't like reading so much before. He only like to play a lots with his toys. It did annoy me sometime. He love dinosaur. So, when we went to car boot, I got him dinosaur book. Lots and lots. Because he loves them, he wanted to find out about it. So, he need to read all the information. That's in a way, improve his reading a lots.

From there he start to like story book. And now he love reading. It's different than my others which is girl and they love reading a lots. So, sometimes it does annoy when he's not. But, as we all know, they all different.

Just start with the book that he like about. Doesn't matter it's power rangers, spider man or something like that. Even though he might only see the picture and lazy to read at first! Insya Allah you get there.

Just get something like that which he like and sit back and relax.

Oum Anas said...

Salam

Jazaakillahu khayran, I agree. That is how my other sons are learning.

The problem is, as usual, outside pressures... relatives and friends, and I'm not at home right now, so can't do so much about it. I feel I can't "teach" the way I want.

Us.. said...

Sis,

Don't worry too much. I'm here in UK without any other family member apart from my hubby and children.
I had a cousin which same age with me back in Malaysia. She very slow in reading and still stuck when she was 12 years old. But, she did get her degree at the end. And get good job, alhamdulillah.

As pressure from others, I can understand. Even for me, sometimes hubby still a bit scared rather I can actually teach the children to the standard because he can't really get in to homeschool in more bigger as me. But, keep reading other blog. That's what keep me going at first. I look from all aprroach to try to find which I feel comfy with.

I know it's not easy. As for me because my children used to go to school, I learn how to teach my younger one from learning how to do it from my eldest. It seems like I'm learning how to teach from 12 years old!!

Insya Allah you get there..

zara said...

i want to homeschool but im worrried im going ot neglect my children, become lazy!!
my daughtas a good learner and very keen i just hav to put the effort in.